10 phrases that people with migraine hate

10 phrases that people with migraine hate

When it's throbbing, pounding again and life seems to stand still, it's not just the migraine that's unbearable. The questions, comments, and good advice from our fellow human beings are also sometimes still like salt in the wound. 
Anyone who has migraines knows it. The flickering, the slow onset of pain, the knowledge that you are about to be put out of action, whether you like it or not. If on top of that, the people around you have an opinion or some kindly meant advice, it sometimes gives us the rest. Because migraine is not just a bit of a headache, migraine is a neurological disease that knocks sufferers out completely time and time again, making normal everyday life impossible for them. Whether they have children, have just started a new job, or it's their wedding day. Migraines are merciless.

And these 10 phrases don't make it any easier for sufferers: 
1. headache is not the end of the world now, take an Ibu.
Right, that would be a measure. If I had a headache. But I have a migraine. That means my brain vessels are dilated and inflamed. That is unfortunately something different than a small tension headache, which you can fight with an Ibu. Unfortunately!

2. yes, women always have migraines when they don't feel like having sex, muahahahaha!
Suuuuuper funny. For you. For me rather not, because I throw up, because I'm in pain, and because it's embarrassing for me to tell you how bad I feel when you think such crap. 

3. surely you just need some fresh air/coffee/exercise.
Or I have a chronic condition that I can do little about. Exercise and light make migraines worse, unfortunately, excessive caffeine is also counterproductive. 

4. again? That's not normal...
It isn't. That's why migraines belong to the category of "chronic illnesses". They usually have little to do with normality. We also wish for more "normal" and less migraine.

5. try to relax. Maybe it's the stress. 
Has anyone ever relaxed because they were told to? It may be that stress triggered the migraine, but if it's there, it's there. And it doesn't feel very good when we then have to blame ourselves and our lack of relaxation skills. 

6. you have to ... to a neurologist / to an alternative practitioner / sleep more / take better care of yourself ...
I need to take a triptan, pull the covers over my head, and just survive the next few hours. Then we can talk about optimizing my life. Or not. 

7. Go take a warm bath, it feels good.
It doesn't. Because dilated vessels thank you for the warmth and get even wider. 

8. my sister-in-law's cousin got this so-and-so under control. 
That's very nice for her, but it doesn't help me when you make me feel like I'm responsible for my own pain. I have tried many things and, like most people, I still suffer from the attacks. 9. 

9. you can't keep taking medication!
Experts agree that migraine may be treated with triptans up to ten times a month. And since I don't have many other options to get the hammer out of my head, I'm afraid I have to do that. I don't like it either.


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